Growing Up Healthy | How Much Peer Pressure Affect Kids?
My friend’s son is doing so good in his studies..but mine is struggling. Her son is all rounder; keeps ahead in studies, play all sorts of sports and socializes. I am worried about my kid!!! Do you have any idea of how your kid is taking all these? You probably is used to these kind of cribbing and venting out; but do you think is it right thing to do the talking in front of your kid? I think; not just you; majority of the parents do not understand that they are unintentionally putting PEER PRESSURE.
How Peer Pressure Affect Our Kids?
Part of how kids learn about the world and themselves is through their social interactions with their peers. And, there are lots of benefits to peer support. Friends can offer feedback, advice and encouragement.
While peer pressure can have a positive influence, it can also have negative influences – as we know all too well. When kids or teens don’t feel like they belong, it can lead to depression, anxiety and lower emotional health.
Why Kids Give Into Peer Pressure?
Some kids give in to peer pressure because they want to be liked, to fit in, or because they worry that other kids might make fun of them if they don’t go along with the group.
Others go along because they are curious to try something new that others are doing. The idea that “everyone’s doing it” can influence some kids to leave their better judgment, or their common sense, behind.
Introduce Your Kids With “Peer Pressure” Concept
Some kids don’t even recognize peer pressure when it’s happening, while others may be overly sensitive. Teach your child what peer pressure is and isn?t at this age so he knows how to react.
Let your kid know that it’s absolutely fine for a classmate to show off a snazzy new pencil case. But; if your kid is teasing another student about the new pencil set with his/ her preschoolers, that’s plain wrong. “Explain that it’s fun when friends share their new toys, games, and ideas with you, but it becomes peer pressure when they try to talk or tease you into changing what you like.
It’s critical to help kids learn how to deal with the pressure. And while that work really needs to begin in preschool, it’s never too late to help your kids learn how to manage the relationships in their lives.
How Parents Can Save Kids From Getting Affected
Love and Logic offers parents plenty of practical, easy-to-learn tools that can literally save a child’s life when peer pressure drives him or her to experiment with dangerous activities, such as sex, drugs, violence, and other reckless behavior. Here are four tips to help you give your kids the tools they need to resist peer pressure:
Teach your kid that poor choices lead to unpleasant consequences
When children know that poor decisions lead to unhappiness, they tend to be a lot more careful about the choices they make. Love and Logic parents allow their children to make plenty of choices, and plenty of mistakes, when the consequences of these mistakes are not serious or life threatening. The wisdom children gain from being held accountable for these smaller mistakes makes them much less likely to make bigger ones when peers turn up the heat.
Avoid power struggles over friendship choices
Don’t fall into the trap of fighting a losing battle over who your children choose as friends. Parent-child clashes over this issue actually drive kids away from their parents and the family they need so badly. How many American teens hit the streets each year because of the resentment these fights create? Love and Logic parents send the following message: “We will love you regardless of whom you choose as your friends.”
Send positive messages about your child’s ability to make wise choices
Children will either live up to or down to their parents’ expectations. Some parents unwittingly set their kids up for failure by saying things like, “That Joe is going to get you into a world of trouble.” Statements like this imply that our kids are not strong enough to resist being “infected” by others´ poor judgment. Love and Logic parents set positive expectations by making loving comments, such as, “Honey, Joe sure is lucky to have a friend like you who makes such smart choices!”
Allow your child to use you as the “bad guy.”
Love and Logic parents give their children a way of saving face when their friends tempt them to make poor decisions. How? They say, “Sweetie, I know it can be hard to say ´no´ when your friends want you to do something that’s wrong. You can blame us anytime by saying, ‘Oh no. My parents are such dorks. Last time I did something like that they went ballistic. I’d better not.'”
The above mentioned tips can help strengthen your kid’s emotional health. There’s no need to battle with your children over friends, and there’s no need for peer pressure to lead them astray.
Parents can be powerful influences in their children’s lives even during the challenging teenage years. Try Love and Logic and see how it changes your life. You’ll be amazed at how fun parenting can be.
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